5 Tips To Help With Healing
Real emotional healing starts when you stop performing and start staying.
Why Staying With Your Pain Is the Key to Healing That Actually Works
You’ve tried therapy. You’ve journaled. You’ve done shadow work, energy healing, breathwork, maybe even somatic release. And yet… something still aches.
You’re not broken, but it makes sense if you feel that way. When healing doesn’t feel like it’s working, it’s often because one crucial part is missing: the willingness to stay present with what still hurts.
You were taught to rise before you descended. To affirm your way out of grief. To be strong, instead of honest.
If that sounds familiar, this is your reminder: You haven’t failed. Your process may have skipped the part that matters most — the part where you simply stay with your pain.
Here are five healing truths that offer more than a to-do list. These are somatic and emotional anchors for when nothing else seems to work.
Tip 1: Feel It Instead of Fixing It
When healing feels stagnant, it’s often because we’ve been taught to avoid discomfort rather than be with it.
Instead of asking, “How do I make this go away?” ask, “Can I stay with this for one more breath?”
The goal isn’t to fix or eliminate pain right now; it’s to witness it.
Sit quietly with what’s alive, sadness, fear, grief, numbness. Let it exist. Don’t analyze or explain it. Let your body speak without interruption. This is where deep emotional healing begins: presence, not performance.
Tip 2: Breathe Into the Part That Hurts
Breathwork isn’t just a tool, it’s a way back into relationship with your body.
Choose one area that feels tight, numb, or activated, your throat, your chest, your belly, your back. Gently place your hand there. Breathe. Whisper softly, “I’m here now.”
This simple act tells your nervous system it doesn’t have to run. You’re staying. You’re listening. You’re safe to feel what’s been waiting to be felt.
Tip 3: Say the Thing You Never Said
Sometimes healing stalls because the truth is still trapped inside.
Try this journal prompt, or speak it aloud:
- I wasn’t protected.
- I miss them.
- I gave everything and it still wasn’t enough.
These aren’t affirmations. They are releases. Let your body know it doesn’t have to carry the silence anymore. Speak the words that never had a place to land. This is how the ache begins to move.
Tip 4: Stop Performing Your Healing
You don’t need to look like you’re healing to be healing.
You don’t have to post poetic captions about your grief or prove your growth to anyone. You don’t have to be perfect, articulate, enlightened, or put-together. You just have to be real.
Healing might look like crying in the car. Or going quiet in a crowded room. Or saying “I don’t know what I feel, but I feel something.” That’s enough.
Let yourself be unfinished. Let your truth be messy. Healing isn’t linear, and it’s not content.
Tip 5: Choose Presence Over Progress
You don’t need another checklist.
The most meaningful question you can ask today isn’t, “What did I accomplish?” It’s, “Did I stay with myself?” That’s it. Presence rebuilds safety. Presence rebuilds trust. Presence teaches your body that it doesn’t have to dissociate or hide to be loved.
Start with the Descent Ritual – a free 7-minute voice-led healing moment designed to meet you right there.
True healing isn’t about completion. It’s about connection.
When Healing Doesn’t Feel Like It’s Working
If you’re feeling stuck…. If the ache won’t move…. If your heart still clenches and your body still flinches…
You’re not failing. You’re finally telling the truth. And that truth is the seed of real healing.
Go Deeper with The Descent Journal
If you’re ready to stop bypassing what still hurts and learn how to stay, you’re ready for The Descent Journal.
This is not a workbook. It’s not homework. It’s a 30-day soul return.
- 30 somatic healing prompts
Space to grieve, feel, and reclaim
Shadow work that doesn’t bypass your body
This journal doesn’t rush your process. It meets you inside it. One prompt. One breath. One descent at a time.
Start the Descent
Because healing doesn’t begin when you’re fixed. It begins when you stop abandoning what’s still real.